Freedom can be defined as the ability or right of a person to think, behave and verbally communicate the way they want to.
A deeper connotation to the meaning would be that, it is a situation where a person is not enslaved by anyone or any thought. Many of us may be leading a life were we have the power to be who we want. But in all sincerity, can we term ourselves as not being imprisoned at all by our thoughts?
Thoughts that threaten our peace, thoughts that question our worth, importance and position in life? If you are among those, who can declare that your freedom of existence is not threatened or affected by the superficiality of status and position in society, the joy you derive from your life would be far greater than many. The happiness of many is impeded by the clutches of insecurity that stem from self doubts, prestige and rank in the society ladder.
Any quest for us to rise in status or prestige will undoubtedly lead us to a continuous state of discontentment. The reason being that it is a vicious circle from which there is no escape. You may live in a palace with unimaginable wealth and the privileges of wealth but there will always be something that someone, somewhere has what you do not have.
Where and when will your quest end then? Unfortunately, you would not only be wasting the precious time to utilize for purposeful and useful requirements and goals in life, you will never be happy or content with what you have.
Ask yourself “Why do I wish to impress?”
There would be certain areas of life that you may be insecure about. Appearance, work and education are some of factors that may giving you a feeling of lack of confidence.
A lot of times, the childhood you experienced could play a critical role in the development of this trait. The early years in an impoverished or competitive environment could trigger a false sense of security through conscious efforts in creating great impressions. But no matter, how strong your belief may be regarding “keeping up with others”, it is possible to lead a happy life without the stress of wanting to impress others.
Confront the Cause for this Desire
Find out ways that you can work on your strengths. Remember, you have several strengths that many do not have. Work on them and the feeling of inadequacy that often accompanies the desire to impress will eventually disappear as you gain in confidence. Your satisfaction with your life greatly affects the wish to impress others.
Look for Ways to Overcome this Desire
Engage in positive, constructive pursuits, eg: join an organization that seeks to improve the lives of destitute or impoverished children. Become part of charity or social institute that can benefit from your participation. Focus on Personal Development and make it your mantra for making the world we live in a better place. As far as possible, interact with positive people who are sincere in their feedback and encouragement they give you.
Another wonderful way that will ease your desire to impress and make you feel as happy as possible is by appreciating. Be generous with your appreciation and take care to convey your compliment as promptly and effectively as possible.
Appreciate Your Life
If we carefully observe what we have in our life, we would be amazed with the number of factors that actually make our life great. In moments of attempting to compare our life with others, it is very easy to take what we have for granted and lament about what we do not have.
Last but not least, if you are not a Toastmaster yet, join Toastmasters. It is one of the best decisions you will make in your life. Joining a club is the first step to transform yourself and free yourself from a lot of negative thoughts.
A Toastmasters Club has a fantastic supportive and learning environment. A new member is encouraged to be the best they can be by a positive group of members. As a Toastmaster for the last 12 years, I can vouch that the happiness and growth I’ve experienced since joining is magical. Through your Toastmastering experience, not only do you get to meet, know and learn from people, you become a more positive member of society.
So, go on and improve your chances of being happy by focusing on what you have and be true to yourself. A life spent on wondering what others think of you would only lead you to regret and a sense of worthlessness.
Enjoy your Freedom by being YOU, as you learn, grow and help others lead happier lives.