Many of us may have heard from our childhood days, that people will never forget how we have made them feel.
Our experiences with altruistic individuals who thrive in leading a life of kindness and goodness are lessons for us to learn from. It conveys a message that reaffirms the belief that each of us can make a positive difference in someone’s life during their moments of anxiety or distress.
By making someone’s day brighter through our words or actions, we not only spread cheer, we grow in the process.
How do we grow through helping others?
Our feelings of self worth and self esteem are heightened as we become conscious of the joy we can give to the society through our actions.
Our role in the journey of life gets a nod, when as a member of society, we realize the value that we add to another person’s existence through our ability to make someone feel better- it could even be by being a sympathetic listener.
During my 10 day contact class program in Chidambaram (India) in 2009, I faced a situation that was profound to say the least.
Despite my grilling studying routine, my practical exam that was expected to be easy turned out to be a fiasco. It was then a quiet (she was most soft spoken student in class) sweet natured classmate proved to be a pillar of strength for me.
I barely knew her other than the fact that she was hard working and polite to all she met. Her name was Mercy.
An amazing coincidence, I thought, when the name of the person is so apt for their nature. And Mercy was just what her name meant – kind and generous to a fault.
Taking me for lunch soon after my exam experience, she insisted that I eat despite having no appetite. In fact, she literally spooned the food in my mouth.
Offering words of encouragement and strength, she quietly made me feel much better by the time my meal was over.
There I was till then, alone…with no one I knew except for this kindly soul who took it upon herself to be my guardian angel during my moment of dismay and distress.
Humility, sensitivity, honesty, patience, and benevolence are some of the qualities that are observed in people who reach out and help out others in any way they can. They neither have any interest in getting appreciation, recognition for their actions nor do they see their actions as anything extraordinary.
I still remember Mercy, an angel who had made my 10 day trip a memorable one and showed me that people will never forget how you made them feel during a time when it appears there is little light.
And strangely, after I concluded my program, I have never been able to contact her. Her mobile number conveys the automated message that says “this number does not exist” and her land line number gives a dead ring tone.
The decision to help and improve the life of another is an opportunity for us to focus on what we are blessed with rather than what we do not possess. Helping is a beautiful way of enriching our life through the successful experience of improving another’s life on this planet. A way of making our world a happier place!
As Denzel Washington once said,
“At the end of the day, its not about what you have or even what you have accomplished…its about who you’ve lifted up, who you’ve made made better. Its about what you’ve given back”.