When the monsoon showers would pour on her little hut, and the holes on the roof would cause puddles inside her little rooms, what was remarkable was her smile.
I would be in awe of the radiance of her smile…as she would beckon me, a child of 7 into her home and courteously offer the clean, straw, fray edged mat to sit on. This was soon followed by giving me a handful of raw cane sugar in a crumpled torn newspaper piece or sometimes in a well worn old steel plate that was dented at the rim.
This lady with her beautiful smile and pearly teeth is today no more, but what I recall vividly was her hospitality and warmth to me…..even when there was enough in her life to forget such niceties.
We remember people’s courteousness for the very obvious reason –
“People may forget what you told them but they will never forget how you made them feel”
The Code of Behavior we follow enhances our relationships and our life. Our experiences with people may enable us to meet and mingle with a wide spectrum of people. People with different personalities and characteristics. Whatever ability we may have in “managing” relationships, we need to have a code of behavior that we follow no matter how or who the person we are conversing with is.
Our courtesy and graciousness needs to be constant and deliberate and our behavior needs to reflect our belief through what we consider as ideal behavior.
Learn from the Past but leave the Past alone
A lot of us refuse to let go of the unhappiness of the past. The past is indeed the past and what we need to remember is only what the past has taught us regarding how to face life well.
For eg: having met one rude person need not be a reason that you turn so cautious that you are unable to be the warm and friendly person that you are.
Learn from the past but never allow it to haunt you that it takes away your positive attitude towards life, your current and future happiness.
Refuse Negativity – People or Conversations
As I’ve mentioned before too, it is truly advisable to stay away from the proximity of negative people or conversations.
Apart from the negativity these individuals pull others in, they also have this ability to enable the listener feel low about themselves and life. Now why would we want to do that?
So even if it is a member of the family or friend, either encourage them to overcome their negativity and if they refuse to stop enjoying their negative thinking then avoid interacting with them as much as possible.
Accept that the rudeness of others is a reflection of themselves and not you
Last but not least, refuse to get dragged down by the rudeness that someone may show for no reason. It is a reflection of who they are and not of who you are.
Tackle these challenging individuals and situations as effectively as possible, keeping in mind the objective or purpose of your interaction with them. Be aware of staying in control of your emotions and your aim on the successful outcome and work steadily towards it. Reflecting rude behavior for the purpose of “putting someone down” or “in their place” is foolish, waste of your precious time and efforts.
Cordiality is nothing other than connecting with the intrinsic goodness within us and around us.
Enjoy the harmony in your existence through courtesy and amiability.