Despite the challenges involved in seeing your child venture out into the world to learn, grow and succeed, this is an ideal time to take a little more care of yourself.
When a child is at home, you may seldom think of little indulgences like going for a rejuvenating retreat or a quick relaxing weekend break. Their schedules are often given the importance over the little indulgences you enjoy. This is even a perfect time to plan that surprise trip to spend the day with your parents on their anniversary. As we know, parents are always striving to be understanding and patient. They certainly understand how busy you are with home, work and your child, so this a wonderful opportunity for you to spend some quality time with them, maybe even take them for a holiday with you, if possible. Believe me, they’ll be thrilled!
Meditation & Yoga
Meditation can greatly help you find inner peace and restore serenity during your day. It is an effective tool for combating anxiety and stress. While yoga is an ancient health promoting tool for relieving stress, relaxing and toning our body, its power to work effectively on the mind and body is truly miraculous. Indulging in yoga and meditation will infuse you with a feeling of serene well being and tranquility amidst the emotional vacuum caused by the emptiness of your nest.
Seek Support during Stress
There may be some of you who despite the support of family and friends, may wish to seek further support or help from a health professional. The sudden absence of your beloved child at home could be a cause of acute anxiety or pain for you. It is perfectly fine to seek this support should you need it and the important factor is taking the help at the right time. Seeking this support is not a reflection if your inability to manage your life but it merely is a reflection of the sensitivity you are experiencing during this vulnerable time.
Focus on Self Education
Education need not be experienced purely for career purposes alone. You have the perfect liberty to consider studying or learning as a hobby if you wish. It is an enriching activity to indulge in the acquisition of knowledge. It is also an activity that is positive and wholesome. Educating yourself not only enables you to improve but helps you find purpose in life.
Rekindling the Joy of Marriage
The early years of marriage and the years after your child arrives could be termed as a contrast. Suddenly the routine of being spontaneous undergoes a transformation. Life then transforms into one that is interesting and follows a philosophy of organized time management! The time and your activities are all naturally planned, keeping in mind the child’s routine.
“The Empty Nest” phase, is an ideal time to bring back the romantic sparkle to your marriage. With more time, you have the liberty to think of ways to spend more quality time with your spouse. Take up a hobby that you both may enjoy or maybe its time to bring back those regular weekend movie nights you both enjoyed during your early days of marriage. In fact, you have endless options to enjoy the companionship of your spouse now.
This is a time in life that reminds us just how much we need to keep ourselves positively engaged and active. The saying that “An Idle Mind is a Devil’s Workshop” is one that can evolve into a hard reality in this situation too.
As parents, we need to remember that the well being of our children is also deeply affected by how happy and contented we are. Our anxiety or sadness due to their absence would only make it more challenging for them to cope up with a new stage of life. This challenging and exciting experience of leaving home for further personal and professional development would be better enjoyed and appreciated by our children, if their parents are cheerful and in harmony with the change.
We have the power to make this change as positive and stress free as possible for ourselves and our child. By guiding them in their transition from staying within the comfort of their loving family to living independently on their own, we make their life and our own happier.
As parents, this is another opportunity to enrich our life, explore learning opportunities and seek better refinement and advancement in our existence.