Do you wish to make your life an experience with no regrets?
As you sail through the seconds, minutes, days, months and years, suddenly it may dawn to you to look back at your life with traces of regret. You may look at events, situations and relationships in your life that you wish you could have handled differently.
Take a closer look at the life you lead today. If you have even the faintest feeling of regret, work on finding effective solutions to what you wish to do or the relationships you wish to mend.
For many the existence of fear is a signal that we need to work on conquering it. The fear of regret is no different from many other fears. With intent and effort, it can be overcome. Those with no regrets are those who thrive in leading a fulfilling, happy and engaging life and are ones who take pleasure in making the best of their life.
Many of these intrepid individuals have taken tremendous risks in their life. Risks that would have led to their broken dreams if they had failed. But because they took up these daunting risks, it had helped them achieve their dreams and victoriously led them to success.
Let me narrate a true story. The contempt shown by the protagonist in the face of terrifying danger may appear shocking to you. For some, like me, he could be your heroic symbol of the eternal human desire for courage and spirit.
Over 30 years ago, a contented and financially secure young man of 35 left a comfortable job because he desired to set sail on his own – become an entrepreneur. With little capital, he was a one man army. As the sole breadwinner of a family comprising of a wife and children, he was working literally 24 hours.
One day, as part of a work assignment, a tug boat took him to a ship that was anchored at a distance from the shore.
After completion of his work on the ship late at night, he wished to rush to the shore to get ready for another work assignment in the morning. But unfortunately for him, the weather had other plans. Ominous threatening dark clouds and angry wind along with huge frothy waves tossed the ship about in their rage. Regrettably, there was no tug boat to bring him back to the shore in this weather.
Dawn brought even more bad news. The ship’s engine had died. She had drifted some three hundred meters from shore.
Time was precious and he could not afford to miss the next job assignment.
He bid a hasty farewell to the Captain of the ship who was predictably horrified at his intention. The young man soon began his preparations to swim to the shore.
Placing his purse and papers (including his passport) into his trouser pocket, he rolled and put his clothes and shoes into a plastic bag and tied it firmly to his waist and plunged into the roaring waves.
Tossed about, he barely made it, when he realized that his bag with his purse and passport was missing. Cold, desolate and forlorn, he stood staring at the sea…were all his dreams fated to end now?
That is when he noticed something on the crest of a wave and the bag was playfully thrown at his feet. The rest as they say is history.
Till today, I have no idea whether that young man got his precious bundle of belongings because the ocean felt sorry for his impetuousness. It may have even been out of appreciation for his indomitable courage that the young man was rewarded.
For me, that young man’s actions and the numerous risks he continued to take in his life inspires me.The eventual success he experienced after working tirelessly for many years is the stuff that legends are made of.
As a person that I’ve had the privilege of knowing since birth, I’ve always admired his fearless and bold attitude to life and his adventurous spirit. His courageous story is an acknowledgement to the dare devils who overcame what seemed as insurmountable hardships to many and achieve their dreams.
As one of the biggest fears that motivate successful people – The Fear of Regret, has the power to motivate.
In the course of life, we may look back and sometimes wish that we could have taken a risk despite the possibility of failure. A risk that could see us make a powerful bid to succeed and achieve.
The young man’s decision to cross the sea and reach the shore can be termed as reckless, but imagine if he had not. He may have regretted all his life whether he could have made it to the shore and finished the committed work he was supposed to? His belief in himself was also strengthened when he successfully made it to the shore.
Many live with a feeling of regret that affects their personal and professional life. I meet people who are having a fantastic job but regret being in it. I meet students who do not want to study the course they have undertaken because they regret their choice and I meet people who have got so used to leading a life of complacency that have never stepped out of their comfort zone and done what they are capable of or wanted to. Many even consider life as an experience of regret eventually.
Feeling regret brings in an air of despondency in life. It leads to an increase in stress and an enforced lethargy that can creep into our attitude towards our life. It finally culminates in taking away a lot of the joy we can experience in life.
Do we actually need to lead a life of regret? The answer is an emphatic “No”. With the choices, we have, we need to take a practical action that would help us remove any burden of regret in our mind. We may need to step out of our comfort zone…so what? Unless you try, who will make this bold step for you?
Set yourself on a fearless and undaunted journey of life, and enjoy the happy and regret free existence you deserve.
The risk may be great but remember you only live once.