I remember what one of my friends had shared a year ago regarding his understanding of human nature. “Basically, human beings are lazy.” he had declared during our long discussion of human behavior.
I had refused to agree. Is it really so? I’m not sure if we can categorize human behavior with a generalized approach. As a species, we are far too complex to categorize unlike other living forms on our planet.
The purpose of life also greatly varies from person to person. One factor that is critical to our existence would be our inter dependency on fellow humans and our innate desire to be in a state of happiness.
From the time of our birth, initially it is our Mother from whom we receive our elixir of life. This is followed by a prolonged period of parental dependency that requires a healthy support, interaction and guidance.
Despite our innate ability to think, intellectualize, communicate, feel, create and discover, we are essentially social beings. Our existence depends on our success to live in harmony with others in the society. For individual success in behavioral and developmental growth, progress and greater cultural tolerance, the role that society plays is phenomenal.
Unlike the rest of living beings that thrive on their own after they reach an age of maturity, as a singular member of society we are unable to exist in the occurrence of combat, danger or threat to our existence. Our growth gets rapidly stunted too in the event of a starvation of human interaction.
The intriguing case of the feral child, Victor of Aveyron gave society a glimpse of how crucial human inter dependence is. Having had no experience with human beings during the crucial early years of development, it was impossible to groom him to be a member of society. French physician, Jean Marc Gaspard Itard’s research on the significance of early nurturing and learning in developmental growth of humans proved to be a ground breaking study in the 1800s.
If we are to look at the evolution of mankind, history has conveyed us that our abilities are ideal for community existence rather than self survival.
As a social being or a member of society, our involvement and our ability to reach out and help each other plays a role in our satisfaction with life.
What are the things we need to remember as a conscious member of society and yet retain our individuality?
Respect the Culture and Laws of the Place or Organization that we are a part of
Wherever we may reside or live, respecting the culture and the laws of the place that we live in goes a long way in our assimilation of the values and culture of the land.
This can be a phenomenon that can affect the other way too.
Should it be impossible for us to find respect and courtesy in our mind for the place or organization we are a part of, it is time for us to consider the step to leave. Like in the case of my friend, who despite her utmost sincerity and dedication to the organization she works for, was given barely any respect as a hardworking member of the company. Unfortunately, due to an acute case of office politics, she was acutely made to feel that she was treated unfairly and unjustly. It finally came to a situation that she noticed her tolerance was deeply affecting her self respect and peace of mind.
In such situations, it is highly advisable to leave after looking at all the options to find a peaceful solution to this issue.
Refrain from Seeking to be Appreciated
No matter just how much we may attempt to make others “like” us, there will always be someone we annoy or dislikes our action or words. Doing what the situation demands of us is a healthier outlook while keeping in mind the reasons and the affect of our actions.
Whether recognition comes to us or not, the actions that we make in helping a single member of the society or a group creates a positive effect. The positive result of our actions is what we only need to keep our focus on.
Make Initiatives and Take Action
What we believe, needs to be followed by welcoming others who think alike with us. Make them a part of our journey in making our world a happier place. Make the action to lead and take action. In fact, we don’t have to reach adulthood to follow this philosophy in life.
Like in the case of 16 year old Amaan Iqbal Ibrahim. An assistant head boy of Our Own English School. To promote the values of philanthropic service and social harmony, Amaan leads a voluntary group called “Budding Humans” that conducts labour camps during religious festivals in U.A.E. The group, comprising of hundreds of volunteers have served more than ten thousand blue collar workers already.
Amaan is an inspiration as his work reflects an ideology that our actions need to be based on how passionate and determined we are in helping make our world a better place.
If we want to be truly what we can positively be, our earnestness to guide, support or assist others, even a single person goes a long way in the realization of who we can become.