During our baby years and early childhood, we are continuously exploring the world around us. Factors that stimulate our senses are the ones that catch our attention the most.
The whiff of the breeze that play through our hair as we swing in the park, the cold delightful taste of ice cream whilst watching T.V, swimming in the pool on a warm summer day and a great story telling session by an animated story teller are all situations that allowed us to explore and understand the world we are a part of.
But as we get on with the years, we discover that life teaches us to understand different perspectives of the world. We get into a state of learning and then unlearning what we have as we understand and comprehend the situation with the wisdom of education and experience.
One of the most fascinating insights that enable us to understand our environment better is through understanding ourselves or discovering who we are.
Self discovery can be defined as the task of gaining insightful comprehension of our nature or our personality. On a deeper plane, it is the birth of our awareness of our potential, our likes, our dislikes, our talents, our aptitudes and much more.
It is also a process of finding our calling or finding the motive in our existence.
The road to self discovery is seldom easy or immediately tangible to us. The questions that stare at us during this process can emerge out lack of confidence. Even the confusing choices we have made and our past and present experience of the interaction with others play a crucial role in enabling us to understand ourselves with clarity.
Taking a step in discovering ourselves may also require determination to resolve certain issues that need decisive immediate action.
When a friend of mine realized that she was making herself miserable by attempting to please her never satisfied spouse, she decided that she will neither make attempts or efforts to ensure that she makes him “happy”. Her decision was based on what she can do and the rest is up to the spouse to appreciate her or not.
Today, she says that it was one of the best decisions she made in her life. The emotional detachment has enabled her to become more happier and confident as a person. Furthermore, this step has helped in connecting better with her self and understanding her purpose in life.
Discovering ourselves involves questioning ourselves about our values and identification of our requirements for existence.
By asking ourselves these two challenging questions, we are then faced in taking the next step – the decision to step out of our comfort zone. This may involve making change to the life we have led so far. For eg: leaving the job we have had for the last 15 years may be what it needs for us to discover themselves.
Being a life long learner is a key factor that helps one to discover themselves from those who struggle to understand who they really are.
Along with this, a few simple steps can help us make a smooth journey to self discovery and through this, help us lead a happier and contented life.