As an eternal student, meeting people has given me tremendous joy and enhanced a passion of mine – understanding people. In fact, I have been fortunate to meet many quaint, wonderful, interesting, intriguing and brilliant individuals.
Each of them have proved to be fascinating with their ability to teach, inspire and in some cases frustrate me with their idiosyncrasies. But through it all, they enabled me to understand and respect human behavior better.
One of the most important lessons they have taught me is one that I consider invaluable in my journey through life. That is, not to merely reflect on the positive experience of basking in the affection of others, but to accept “rejection” as spiritedly as acceptance.
There is no rule that demands that all whom we may enjoy interacting with, have to necessarily relish our companionship or proximity with the fervor we may have!
Indeed no, and the beauty of this stark fact is that it leaves a powerful impact on our life. If we are prepared to silence the furious whispering voice of self importance, then this experience leads us to a silent but triumphant inner awakening of wisdom and humility.
Of course, in all fairness, what can be termed as a matter of triumph or victory may differ from person to person –
1) The word “Triumph” can be referred to an overt victory in a situation – like winning in sports or a contest.
2) “Triumph” can be used to describe as a brilliant ability to win over people to your mode of thinking.
3) Our triumphant stand in a situation can be when we understand that our status in life is what we believe our life’s philosophy is. Do you want to be famed for being the deeply committed family person or the business tycoon with the inimitable Midas touch? The choice is indeed ours.
4) Our triumph in an experience can also be from learning to put aside our egoistical notions. Be willing to understand where we go wrong when we relate to people.
It is true that we may not be able to derive much pleasure in reflecting on our experiences with those who may not have shown neither interest or fondness for us.
But if we are able to remain neither flustered by the criticism or overwhelmed by flattery, we undeniably learn far more from the situation than otherwise.
Remember, the famous line from Rudyard Kipling’s “If”,
“If neither foes nor loving friends can hurt you”?
After all, just as we have the liberty to accept people for what they are, others too enjoy that complete freedom.
It is a freedom, we as fellow members of society need to graciously respect and appreciate, without self consciousness or indignation.
It is a matter of acceptance, understanding others and ourselves better. Our acceptance of a person’s attitude towards us inevitably enables us to acquire the wisdom of sensitively enjoying life.
With the enjoyment of life, so will our ability to appreciate and cherish meaningful satisfying relationships get enhanced.