I have been asked the question, “How does one motivate oneself?” several times.
What has perplexed me is that, most of the time, the question is asked by professionally successful members of society.
It’s a fantastic question and its answer can take us to the threshold of an understanding of not just who we are, but also how much we can help others. By enjoying the process of staying motivated we will derive pleasure by ensuring others too enjoy a wonderful level of motivation.
Here are 6 amazing ways to get ourselves into the journey of motivation –
1) Understand Yourself – What gives you happiness?
2) Set Goals – Take responsibility for your actions – refuse to indulge in the blame game.
3) Be your toughest Critic – Define your expectation regarding yourself and what you are capable of achieving.
4) Find your Purpose – What is your definition of Success?
5) Be a Learner and continuously Improve – Learn from experiences and people.
6) Be Passionate about Life – Make every moment of your life count.
Let me briefly explain how I got awakened into this life – changing process.
One of the first steps that motivated me in my life was when I accepted that it’s fine not to know all the answers. The second was to realize that it’s perfectly fine to ask the answers from those who know. Suddenly the moment I accepted these two changes in my thinking, the whole world seemed to open up for me.
Its amazing to observe just how ready people are to share their wisdom and learning with us when we seek their guidance.
The key factor is to always remember, that there’s always something we can learn from everyone we come across in our life.
3) Motivate Yourself to Motivate Others.
One of best ways we can create leaders is by teaching our children, family and people whom we know to motivate others.
Many years ago, my 11 year old son, had baked a surprise chocolate cookie dough cake for our household staff member, Raju, on his birthday. I still remember my son’s excitement as he baked this cake, without Raju having any clue about it.
Through that simple gesture, he had innocently conveyed to Raju just how appreciated and valued he is.
Another incident that comes to my mind, took place not too long ago. When I lost in the International Speech Contest Finals at the District Toastmasters Conference in 2013, someone insisted that she celebrates my performance.
My teenage daughter made sure that she “celebrated” my performance in her own unique manner that day. More than anybody else, she made a lot of efforts to make me feel like a winner. In fact, she even insisted that she takes a snap of me doing the thumbs up outside the conference hall just after the contest.
Making our loved ones and everyone you come across feel like a winner takes efforts and interest. The impact of our actions on those we are motivating will be far more powerful than we may initially realize.
True leadership can remind us a lot about parenting. Like parents, these leaders will motivate us to feel we are improving and developing. Most importantly, that our actions add significance to a greater purpose.
In the words of the famous author, poet and historian, Maya Angelou,
“People will forget what you said … But people will never forget how you made them feel”