Someone once said, “To be Happy you must be your own Sunshine”
On rare occasions, we may come across individuals who are so happy and such followers of positive living, that you wonder, just what makes them so chirpy…so cheerful?
Do they have no problems? No challenges in life? Have they led such a perfect life that they have no idea what it means to be sullen or just annoyed?
Interestingly, a friend of mine that I’ve known for more than twenty years, taught me the lesson that people can lead so very different lives from what we may imagine them to lead.
During my college days, it would not be an exaggeration to say that she was the most popular girl in my college. Everyone knew her, she had a kind word for everyone. She was friendly outgoing and eternally cheerful. More importantly, she seemed eternally blissfully happy.
Being away from my home for the first time, I was just getting used to living in a hostel and learning to live in a different environment. When I spoke to her for the first time, I found her behavior remarkable. I admired her effortless way of connecting to people, relating to people and completely accepting people for they are.
I was quite certain that she would undoubtedly have a rosy family and a magical stress free home environment. Sadly, it couldn’t be further from the truth.
She came from a home that was severely affected by an acute financial crises . A home where not only the parents did not have harmony between them but lived far away from each other for the sake of peace in their family and to pay off the debts they had.
While many may justifiably struggle to cope with a personal crises of this nature, my friend was determined to celebrate life in the best way she could. Lead a life to the her best abilities, help others in anyway she could and best of all, create happiness wherever she went.
At the end of the three years, she completed her degree with flying colours and received the prestigious “Student of the Year” recognition.
As a classmate and friend of this unique personality, let me share some of the principles I’ve observed her follow during the three years I enjoyed her inspiring company –
Love yourself as much as you love and help others.
What you cannot change, accept it or let it go.
Accepting who you are gives you confidence.
Be a symbol of optimism and goodwill – how you react to circumstances plays a critical role rather than the circumstances by themselves.
Leading a life of gratitude – for the health and happiness you experiences despite the imperfections in your life.
Enjoy the humor in life even if there not many elements in your life that do not merit a smile. Laugh whenever possible at funny or ridiculous moments in life.
Enjoy life by living it to its full radiant glory – live life with PASSION.
Refuse to be smitten by the negativity bug – keep your emotional well being free of negative thinking.
My unforgettable friend, eventually went on to complete her doctorate in Psychology and today leads her life in happy contentment as a Professor and Social Activist.
She is a beautiful example of how life can be lived through the practice of “Positively Living It”.
By determining the quality of our life through the decision to be positive and contented, we are not merely making our life happier but also creating a happy impact in the lives of those we come across. Positive thinking enables us to accept who we are, what we are and motivates us into becoming who we are meant to become.
Practicing this philosophy as a way of life enables us to comprehend the mystery of life – the purpose of life. Best of all, the reason for our existence becomes far clearer to us. After all, life is not measured by just how we lead our own life but also by how many lives we have been able to inspire during the journey.