President Coriolanus Snow, the tyrannical and diabolical antagonist in the “Mocking Jay” movies once remarked,
“Hope, it is the only thing stronger than fear”
The term, “Sanguinity” defines a state of optimism and hope. A sanguine individual teems with the zest to make the tomorrow even better than today and much more improved from the past. And as Snow observed, it is a state of mind that is even more powerful than experiencing “fear”.
During childhood years, the cocooned existence within the warm embrace of family and the mythical tales and tiny dreams enhances the child’s hope for a better tomorrow or a better future. A hope, born out of a child’s innocence and lack of fear.
With the maturity of years, we are faced with onset of doubts brought about by lack of belief in ourselves or our abilities. Expectations relating to image, status, education, wealth and numerous other factors play havoc with our perception of how we see “hope” in our life and in the world.
For us to have a better sense of control over our belief of hope, it helps to create a statement that is a reflection of the mission you see yourself experiencing in your life. Like a ship that faces a storm at sea, this statement is one that would be an anchor during turbulent times in your life. Read it to not just to derive peace amidst any chaos in your life but read to as an affirmation of good times ahead.
In the famous Indian movie, “Three Idiots”, the hero, an unconventional, responsible and lovable character, chants his anchor, “All is Well” during challenging and comical moments. A hero who every time, ensures that his chant infuses the environment with hope and reassurance that things will be fine.
Make a note of what are the activities you involve yourself that you consider helps you to be spiritual. Broadly speaking, ‘Spirituality” can be defined as a search to decipher life’s meaning or the meaning of life’s journey. For many, social or charity work triggers a deep rooted state of contentment and serenity with its deep rooted emphasis on spirituality. Think of the many opportunities you get in your environment to enjoy spiritual bliss – it may be through your interaction with members of your community for social causes, collegues who enhance your tolerance of your world with their wisdom, charity bodies and so on. Working with them in total involvement would only increase the ‘hope” you experience in life.
Creating a cliche of healthy friendships is also a great way to build up the resilience against hopelessness or negative thinking. A couple of relationships that enable you to be yourself , allow yourself to enjoy some positive talk and enjoy without being judged at all would help you to keep your tank of “hope ” full! Make a conscious decision to avoid individuals who merely demoralize you with their depressing, negative and malice infused thoughts.
It is ideal and practical to have only 2 or maximum 3 close friends as the larger the group the higher the tendency for inhibition to arise during interaction.
Your goals are factors that will trigger the feeling of hope in you too. Look at what you wish to achieve in your life and select who are those people who would spur you to achieve it. Maintain a regular contact with them – they are the motivators in your life. Value them and cherish their goodwill and regard for you.
Stepping out of your comfort zone would also involve utilizing not just your existing skills but skills that you are yet to discover. This step would also create a spurt of hope and optimism in you. You would find asking yourself the question, “Would I be able to do it?”.
Joining Toastmasters International is not only a great way to initiate ourselves into the improvement of communication and leadership skills but to help us become better individuals – full of optimism and hope. Becoming a Toastmaster, enables you to not just be on an enriching road of discovery, you would also embark on a journey of Self Realization. Being a Toastmaster, encourages you to fulfill your potential and also makes you desire the same for others as well.
Having hope and resisting the tendency to lose it while facing adversity is not easy to say the least. And this brings to my mind, my friend’s Uncle Hector.
Hector’s son had given him a challenging experience for many years with his refusal to improve, be honest and become responsible, but Hector…never gave up. First it was high school then followed by University that the son wasted away with his assuring lies that he’s doing “fine”, this followed another University stint elsewhere resulting in the same story and so on. But Hector’s hope regarding his son was steadfast. Finally after several attempts and precious wasted years, Hector’s son cleared his degree.
This was followed by a employment as an intern that ended in nothing significant, much to Hector’s grief. After several numerous failed internships, Hector was forced to hear of his son’s methods of shirking work and responsibilities from a disgruntled employer. Eventually, Hector decided to set up a business for his son, giving him a final opportunity to redeem himself from the lazy and irresponsible life that he led. To his misery, his son yet once again proved irresponsible and the business fell apart.
Through it all, Hector continued having hope that his son would one day be responsible and have a steady job. Miraculously, after years of proving Hector wrong, his son began to work with sincerity and dedication.
It is indeed not easy to have hope when we are proven wrong over and over again. But to continue having hope in a situation that has the possibility of success, is a reflection of your inner strength and impenetrable optimism. It is seeing light when all others can see only darkness in a heavy fog of pessimism.