Our journey to Self – Discovery involves introspection from our side.
It is our comprehension of our habits, potential, areas of improvement, requirements, what we like and dislike that makes us cope better with the changes of life.
Cultivating this unique ability to adapt to changes, determines our receptiveness to discovering ourselves.
How can we make a serene transition from being a seeker of discovering the world we live in to one who also seeks an inner awareness through Self – Discovery?
1) Acknowledge Our Feelings
We may all go through some moments in our life where we may feel uncertain of how good and capable we are to handle certain situations. Instead of not merely experiencing this feeling of low self esteem, question yourself the reason or reasons for your feelings.
Why do you feel the way you do? What is the action you need to take to prevent this undesirable feeling in future?
2) Be Honest With Yourself
When I joined Toastmasters 12 years ago, a few kind and encouraging members asked me if I had any experience in public speaking in college. I replied, “No” and then realized the reason for it. I never ventured forth and auditioned for elocution or speech contest in college because I did not believe I was good enough.
My distorted logic during my college years was that, since I never really achieved any recognition for it in school, why audition now when I was not likely to do well in it?
The moment this realization dawned to me and I accepted the understanding in its completeness I felt much better. It was a moment when I accepted the consequences of a negative attitude that I harbored. My next thought then was, “What do I do about it?”
This question is valuable because the action we make in response to a matter is what helps us make the desired progress.
3) Lower Your Expectations From People
The expectations we have from others play a huge role in not understanding ourselves.
The reason is simple – we spend a lot of unnecessary effort and time thinking of why people behave the way they do. The question is, does rattling our mind over something that is most of the time inconsequential help us in any way? Focus on accepting people for being the way they are, unless their behavior towards you or even others is an unavoidable concern for you.
During my recent visit to our local mall, I was faced with a situation that made me decide to react.
I came across an agitated Mother who repetitively hissed “You are useless, I tell you…utterly useless”, to her quiet toddler son. The child looked quite surprised and vaguely puzzled by the Mother’s anger. A minute later, I walked up to the Mother and asked her if I may share a concern with her as a well wisher. The Mother with a sheepish grin assured me with a “Please do”.
I gently shared my concern regarding her remarks towards her little son. She looked surprised when I said that no matter what errant behavior her son showed, her words had the power to negatively impact her child. I also stressed that through her words, she could be affecting the long term confidence and self esteem of her child.
Fortunately, the young Mother took my words without hostility and merely smiled and said, “Yea…I sometimes say things when I get very angry”.
I was happy with her response but in all sincerity, I had no expectation regarding the Mother’s response when I spoke to her. My intent was purely focused on bringing the Mother’s notice to the possible impact of her words on her child.
If my words were to have caused anger or indignation in the Mother, I was prepared to apologize for the liberty I had taken with her.
If we consciously choose to reduce our expectations from people, we gradually acquire a simpler way of looking at life and our positive role in it.
4) Making Conscious Efforts in Keeping Negative Thoughts at Bay
Have you ever wondered why some people are genuinely so charming and pleasant?
One of the reasons is that they are conscious of the thoughts they entertain.
A conscious focus on positive thoughts triggers feelings of happiness. This feeling of happiness enables us to look beyond what requires our immediate attention.
We are more likely to utilize our time effectively through the conscious exploration of positive thoughts and energy. This exploration will trigger the opening of an intellectual portal that focuses on acquisition of knowledge and wisdom.
Knowledge that would then be utilized for self improvement, environment enlightenment and societal emancipation.