From the age of of 10, my teachers would wait eagerly to see my parents to come for the parent teachers meetings. Since I did not give my teachers much opportunity to tell fantastic tales of my educational or extra-curricular feats to my parents, my teachers would merely want to give my parents a tiresome update about me. An update that would ensure that I remain invisible at home for a week or until the meeting was kind of forgotten!
This went on until I joined college, and of course by then thankfully there were no more dreaded parent teacher meetings.
But through it all, there were two people in my life who believed in me, it was my Dad and my Mom. They never lost hope.
We all may have comes across individuals in our life who despite the odds have stood by the belief they have in us.
As parents, as Mothers, Fathers and members of society, we have a greater responsibility than many can imagine. We cannot afford to lose hope. If we lose hope, how can we expect our children or those we are guiding, mentoring or coaching, to believe that they can succeed?
To help mentor guide and support anyone we may know, in order to help them reach their potential, we need to take the lead.
We may not necessarily be owners or CEOs of organizations but we lead by leading our lives, while leading our loved ones and others to reach their goals.
Coming back to my story, my college years sailed away and it was much later that the thought to develop and improve struck me – when I accomplished a year – long project on the schedule that I had made. My journey of enlightenment had begun.
I joined Toastmasters, a non-profit making, 92 years old organization based in the U.S, that promoted leadership and communication skills in 2004. The support and encouragement I received from Toastmasters was phenomenal. This spurred me, even more.
I then began a journey of learning that took me through an intense process of development and training. A new belief emerged and one that convinced me that I CAN achieve my goals if I am determined to do so. I realized that my school or college years do not reflect what I can be if I have the confidence and belief to achieve my goals.
I will never forget the three valuable lessons that I experienced in my life –
1) It’s our BELIEFS that lead us to make that one BIG change that we desire in our life.
When I realized that I CAN achieve my goals, I realized that I would need to make some fundamental changes to the way I was I leading my life.
That was when I got thinking of my time wasting habits of the day. I gradually made efforts to overcome them by replacing my undesirable habits with effective desirable habits over a period of time.
Any intrinsic belief that we have will change our BEHAVIOUR. This in turn affects our HABITS and HABITS into ACTION and of course ACTION into SUCCESS.
One of the people who I consider as the quintessential role model, for reflecting the power of belief and hard work is my school mate Anna. After grade 10, she had to move from India, where she was studying in a state curriculum school, to an English medium school in Dubai. The challenges she faced in communicating with everyone in English and understanding the subjects that were taught in English was highly taxing for her. Considering the stress that Anna went through in the two final years of school, many in her place may have been tempted to quit. But by carefully learning to improve her English and by working closely with the teachers, she worked very diligently. Anna became a legend in school when she went on to become one of the top performers of our school in grade 12.
We may all have inspiring individuals like Anna in our life. Each one a illuminating beacon of wisdom that conveys to us just how important belief plays in achieving success.