The Trust Factor is one of the ingredients that creates the elixir of happiness. The elixir of happiness is undoubtedly bewitching and I think significant enough for us to make an effort to enjoy.
One of the traits of those who trust is their ability to see goodness in situations and others.
All of us have qualities that we can definitely do without and those we can feel happy about. What is critical is our ability to see the goodness that exists in most we interact with. Do we show the patience to understand who we come across before we quickly judge them?
Another assumption that affects our ability to trust is our tendency to generalize one incident with relation to people. A couple of months back, I met a concerned Mother who voiced her dismay at her son’s shattered marriage. Her concern is but natural but her understanding from the experience was a matter of even greater concern. “How can we be sure how another girl he gets married to will be like?”, she said with sadness.
The fact is, she can never be sure how another girl may be unless her son marries another girl. What is of importance is not be susceptible to assumptions just because of past experiences. Allow every person you come across to get the opportunity to reflect what characteristics they have rather than keeping them at a distance out of fear of disappointment.
When it comes to trusting people, some of us may have an active ability to depend on our intuition or instincts. I say ability because we may have experienced incidents in the past that proved that our instincts were right. The key is to respect what our intuition may be communicating with us but not to the extent that we do not give the person a chance to prove their worth.
We may sometimes be pleasantly surprised to note that many of our negative intuitions about people are incorrect.
While discussing about the significance of trust, we may ponder about what are the characteristics that we would like to see in those we trust. This is an exercise that enables us to be an example of what a trustworthy person can be. Purely expecting others to be worthy of your trust is easy, but are we deserving a positive reciprocating behavior from them too?
Most of the trustworthy people I have had the privilege to come across seldom indulge in petty conversations about others. They refuse to discuss negative information that they may have received from others as well. The reason is simple – our discussion of gossip or frivolous narrations about another does not enhance the positive life that we seek for ourselves.
People who value trust have no interest or regard to indulge in people manipulation. These people would rather look at ways that are simple and frank when it comes to their interactions with people. They abhor playing games or testing people to get them to do what they want from them.
Last but not least, trustworthy individuals have great respect for frankness and honesty in their relationships with people. They enjoy being frank and may at times be seen as undiplomatic and tactless. The best part of knowing a disarmingly honest person in your life is that you know where you stand with them. They seldom mince their words or are hesitant about communicating their thoughts to you.
My friend Leena is one person with whom I can always have the most candid conversations. I have no fear in offending her with my comprehension of any controversial subject we may discuss. Her respect for individual differences and frankness is admirable to say the least.
Meaning what you say and doing what you promise to do are undoubtedly traits of individuals who hold trust in their relationships with high esteem.
Individuals who enjoy trusting others, enjoy life to a greater extent. They not only relish their life by cherishing every moment in its completeness but unconsciously teach others through their words and actions what trusting and being trustworthy is all about.
Now, would you not like to enjoy a relatively transparent and open relationship with people with a little extra effort? Well, at least most of the time. I know there are some people who despite all our efforts in conveying our sincerity will choose to believe what they wish to! But those fortunately are a small minority.
By leading a life fearlessly we can trust and show greater respect for those whom we interact or associate with. This enables us to not only enjoy more fulfilling personal and professional relationships but become a more positive member of society.