According to the English Oxford Dictionary,
“A comma marks a slight break between different parts of a sentence”
The comma enables a pause instead of the sentence moving in full speed like a verbal train of thoughts. The question is, “How often do we realize that we should not rush through our life but pause and enjoy the moment?”
Unless we make a conscious step to slow down and “smell the flowers”, it is very easy for us to be constantly in a rush to complete things, finish work and finish each day. One of the biggest drawbacks in rushing things is that, monotony sets in without realizing. This is automatically followed by stress and losing our connectivity with people, life and of course, ourselves.
How can we develop an enjoyment and fulfillment of life whilst completing our daily chores?
Live in the Moment
Our day consists of myriad opportunities to act with purpose and deliberation.
Imagine, we are entering an office and you can see that the receptionist is sullen and preoccupied. It is easy for us to barely recognize her non verbal behavior and merely ask her the information we seek and be on our way.
If we wish to think a little positively, we can wish her and chat with her for a moment and wish her a good day. This is of course, after taking into account that she may show no interest or desire to converse with us.
Enjoy the Food we Eat by Savoring its Taste Slowly
The food we eat, undoubtedly enhances our pleasure of living. How many of us actually make the time to enjoy every meal (even if it is munching an apple)?
Remember the animated classic movie, “Ratatouille” and its central character Remy? One of the most memorable scenes in the movie is the one where Remy is thrilled to taste the strawberry with cheese. The culinary ecstasy that he experiences with each mouthful is inspirational.Would it not be great if we too share the reverence and delight for the food we eat?
Undue Anxiety about Future
A few days ago, someone shared with me a matter that concerned them greatly. A matter that they believe may affect their life negatively if the course of their future changes. Seeing the high improbability of the imagined catastrophe happening, I requested her to pause for a moment and think about the probability of the imagined problem befalling her.
After a minute, she admitted that the possibility is indeed very minimal.
Many a time, the anxiety or concern we may experience about a matter or a person is purely based on over analysis. Its a wise idea to remind ourselves that every day is a precious opportunity for us to live well and be happy. Refusing to clutter our mind with worries about what could happen will help us retain our serenity and peace of mind.
Become a Better Listener
Hearing is an automatic process unlike listening. Listening requires concentration and processing of the received stimulus from the environment.
Are we prone to listening or hearing? Our quality of life is affected by our patience and inclination to listen and comprehend the situation or matter.
My daughter often complains that I don’t listen and that I just hear. She may have a point. I sometimes often enjoy listening to what I wish to hear and not what reality is telling me otherwise. This tendency has reduced over the years but there is still room for improvement!
Get to Know Yourself
Many a time, the stress that we experience for a period without a break, results in our body showing physical symptoms of the stress. A few years back, during a particularly stressful period in my life, I started experienced physical symptoms of stress like breathlessness. I soon realized that my body was earnestly trying to warn me of what it was taking.
The incident prompted me to respect and listen to what my body is communicating with me. Making conscious efforts soon to eradicate the cause of stress benefited me greatly.
Its also a sagacious idea to understand what our values, our preferences, our dislikes and most importantly, our dreams are.
Understanding the type of personality we have is also very crucial to understanding yourself. Are we an extrovert, introvert or an ambivert?
These are questions that only we can answer.
In the quest for “success” many leave this world not finding the happiness they were craving. Sadly, not realizing that they had opportunities in life to make them happy but that they did not pause, stop and enjoy those moments. The assumption that life is long is another reason for forgetting to enjoy and cherish our life.
Life is not a race. The glorification of being busy merely takes one further and further away from things that really matter.